Working Out Loud Circle Guide: Week 3
- Suggested Agenda
- Frequently Asked Questions
- Additional exercises from Working Out Loud
Work on managing your time and offering other universal gifts.
Suggested reading: Chapter 12 - Working your lists
10 minutes - What happened since last week?
5 minutes - Exercise: Pay yourself first
10 minutes - The group discusses how they manage time to work out loud
15 minutes - Exercise: Other universal gifts
15 minutes - Discussing contributions among the group
5 minutes - A few things before the next meeting
What happened since last week? (10 minutes)
Each person should speak for just a few minutes about what, if anything, they did since the last meeting. If they didn’t do anything, there’s no judgment. And it’s okay to ask why the person didn’t do anything so you can all discuss adjustments you can make the next time. It’s part of the learning process and a natural part of developing a new habit.
Exercise: Pay yourself first (5 minutes)
One of the biggest barriers to developing yourself and your career – and one of the themes of modern life – is being busy. People simply don’t have the time to do the things they know would be good for them, whether that’s exercising or eating right or, ahem, doing the exercises in between these meetings.
To pay yourself first, take a look at your calendar now and make appointments with yourself over the next week for doing the activities relating to your goal and working out loud toward that goal.
Write down the slots you picked or reserve the time in your calendar now.
The group discusses how they manage time (10 minutes)
The facilitator should ask for someone to talk about how they manage time related to working on their goal. Do they have a specific schedule? Ask members what challenges they have and see if other members can help based on what works for them.
Exercise: Other universal gifts (15 minutes)
In your first meeting, you offered the universal gift of recognition by following someone. Another universal gift is gratitude. Pick someone on your list and offer thanks in [Jive Community] or Twitter for something they’ve done. One friend called this exercise cheesy but it’s only cheesy if you don’t mean it. A genuine public thank you is a wonderful gift. You can do this by creating a status update, sending a direct message, commenting on helpful content or @-mentioning someone who has helped you. Give one now and update your relationship list with the date and gift next to that person’s name.
You can create a status update (public acknowledgement) or send a direct message (more private and just seen by the person you are sending it to) by clicking on the pencil icon in the top right hand corner and choosing the options highlighted below.
If you find a comment or reply helpful, you can either like it and go one step further by clicking on Helpful to show the person that they helped you out.
If you’re like me, you’re somewhat haunted by all the unsent thank you cards in your life. So here’s a chance to make some amends. Pick someone on your list and offer a private thank you via email or private message. Just two or three sentences that say you’ve been thinking of them and wanted to thank them for something they did or said. Everyone would love to get such a note. So send one now and update your relationship list with the date and your gift next to that person’s name.
Discussing contributions among the group (15 minutes)
The facilitator should ask for someone to talk about their contributions. Did they have trouble coming up with ideas for certain people? If so, others in the group should offer suggestions. This is where the learning happens and the facilitator should actively try to include everyone in the discussion over the 15 minutes.
You don’t need to share everyone’s entire list. The goal of the discussion is to ensure everyone understands the basic idea of contributing to their network. This discussion is also a good time to make suggestions for people to add to each other’s relationship list.
A few things before the next meeting (5 minutes)
At the end of this meeting, the facilitator has three small but important jobs:
1. Schedule the next meeting.
2. Remind people to read the Week 4 circle guide and suggested reading.
3. Ask: “What will you do this week?”
Before the next meeting, keep working on your relationship list and on the contributions you would make for each person on it. Try making at least three of those contributions.
Frequently Asked Questions
Here’s a common question answered in chapter 12.
Q: What if I’m having trouble finding people?
Start looking for people and companies related to your goal. Search for relevant online communities or organizations. Include people who write, speak, or provide services related to your goal. Once you find one person, try to see who that person is connected to. Play Internet detective, and keep following the trail of connections.
Additional exercises from Working Out Loud
Something you can do right now in less than a minute
Show public appreciation on Twitter for someone’s work. Don’t expect to get a reply. Do it just because it’s a nice thing to do, and if someone does reply, that’s a bonus. Below, for example, I shared how much the weekly newsletter of bestselling author Austin Kleon. If you like something, say something.
In[Jive Community], you can also show appreciation to another co-worker or user by thanking them or marking their comment or content helpful. Check out the example below for thank you messages and the button where you can click on for "Helpful" content.
Something you can do in less than 5 minutes
Google yourself. It’s called a “vanity search,” and people do it all the time. Wherever you happen to be now, use your phone or favorite Internet device to find yourself. Are the results you’re looking at what you would like others to see? How much of your best work is visible?
Now search for people you find particularly interesting, people whose work you admire as opposed to celebrities. What’s their online presence like? Is it easy to find them and their work?